Dear Mother Earth,
You are the one who enclose the sprouting seeds, nourish them with healthy nutrients and hold on to their deep strong roots. It’s you who is responsible for your evolving child becoming a magnificent plant. The plant might be poisonous or pleasant one , that lies in the nature and texture of soil. So must be the right nature and character of parents in bringing up their child into a wonderful human.
It’s you who decide whether you want a terrorist destroying a country or a warrior who stands at the border to protect the country. It’s because of you there are people engaging in abusing and bullying activities and of course it’s you bringing up the pride of the nation who wins dozen medals for the country. Thus parenting is the most crucial part in a person’s life. What if the parents themselves are not aware of their own actions and it’s impacts on children. Poor parenting can create a world of aliens rather than a world with humanity.
Most parents use their own upbringing as blueprint for parenting in-spite of the fact changes takes place with change in phase of life. For example a mother might not have been given the freedom to play sports or travel around or to choose her partner. Why should she still force her daughter to not become a sports woman or a journalist though the ways and means for achieving such targets have increased. Is it any tit for tat game? If she herself is not so generous enough, how can she bring up a human with generosity? Why don’t she let her child enjoy her life?
Scolding excessively have also become common. Especially when children honestly comes to you with their faults and in return they get scoldings as their reward, obviously they would turn into a dishonest man. The distance towards the family also increases. If the relationship within the family itself is so absurd, how can she get together with others in the world outside? Doesn’t that leads to poor relationships and ultimately isolation? Won’t she feel alone, depressed?
At times parents think that their child is their whole world and starts pampering too much to the extent that they don’t even teach them what is respect, value of money, what is right and wrong. Wont those fellows grow into an aggressive human engaging in anti social activities without even analyzing their mistakes? Too much of freedom without being harsh at times of unethical behaviors can develop inhumane acts. Is that not the duty of parent to know when to be strict and when to be liberal?
Action speaks better than words, and that applies to the sharp eyed child who follows what is being done than what is being told. Their parents should live a disciplined life with laughter, happiness, encouragements and positive vibes surrounding them. They must set an example for how to live life rather than fighting among themselves, scolding, being aggressive, desolating themselves and being depressed by which conveying child that life is a place to suffer. Will she understand the beauty of life or try to end her life?
In today’s timeless world parents are not even spending few minutes with their children to understand his/her feelings, no time to cheer up the seed for it’s tiny achievements, no time to hear the trauma and struggles inside her/his heart. Won’t their heart find itself empty? Will that situation not make them go crazy? Wouldn’t their heart finds solace in wrong path? But, when you ask those parents that why don’t they get free time , some funny answer would be that they sacrifice their time earning money for the welfare of their children. Isn’t that like reaching the 100th floor through stairs instead of elevator?
Other weirdest part is comparing. Everyone knows that each seed is unique, has it’s own nature, get growth at different period, gives fruits and flowers in its own season. Even then what’s the purpose of the land pressurizing the plant. Doesn’t that leads to low self esteem? Won’t they become envious over others? Is it not a mental pressure?
Last but not least. This type of parents are over protective and are regarded as the designer of child’s life. Right from how to brush teeth, how to eat, till how to put their legs into shoes, they advice and take every decision of the poor seed. It might sound good as it’s their show off of love. But this should be limited till the seed sprouts. In fact experience, decision making, mistakes, risk taking and other life skills are necessary for a child to face life. If every decision is taken by parents , how will the child develop confidence? Will she be a brave warrior? Will she ever have the courage to face problems?
All these are just few questions to mother earth. Mother earth must contain the right amount of sand, silt and clay to create a magnificent tree with delicious fruits. So is the parents who must be disciplined, aware and friendly to make their child a human. Mother earth would never teach the seeds to revenge humans who are destroying them instead teach them to give humans in return their fruits and flowers. That’s the generosity of nature. Don’t teach your children to fill their pockets, teach them to fill their minds with all good deeds and actions. Education through academics is important but more important is the life education. It’s the duty of parents to nourish them with healthy food, encourage them through positive words and spend time to understand the mind of children. It’s in the hands of parents to create a world with humanity , the need of the hour.
Author : Lilly B
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